I was relieved to be greeted by Jeannie, the ultrasound tech I trusted most at the hospital. She began the scan, and worked for what seemed a long time. She could find the sac, but its location was making it difficult to finds what she was looking for. She called in the reinforcements. Two radiologists arrived and began their own exam. I had been subjected to many trans-vaginal ultrasounds in the past, but none were as invasive and painful as what the to radiologists put me through. the inserted the probe and began pushing, twisting and otherwise jarringly manipulating it around what was an accommodating, but not altogether large space. I half-expected the probe to come exploding through the top of my skull. But the pain was not for naught. The doctors fund what they were looking for. The first thing they discovered was the cause of my bleeding. There was a small hematoma in he gestational sac. Basically, it is a pocket if blood that, in my case, was leaking for whatever reason. But they also found the gestational ac, the yolk sac, and, amazingly, my little baby, looking like no more than a blob, but with a tiny heart beating away. I cried, just a little. I went home feeling a little better, but concerned about the hematoma. I knew mine was small, but I also discovered, through endless googling, that it could grow, and it could endanger my pregnancy and possibly, if things got to a certain point, my life. But, I was encouraged when my doctor informed me that the pregnancy was not ectopic, so one worry had been eliminated. He did tell me that the heartbeat was not as high as he would have liked, but that it was still early and we would check again in a week or two. Another to add to the worry column.

Deja Vu

At approximately week 5 and a half, the spotting began. Honestly, I don't remember how much it was. This was four years ago. But I do remember clearly the terror. A check by the doctor revealed that it was nothing, and an ultrasound showed a gestational sac and a yolk sac. Fine for now, but what I really wanted to see was a heartbeat. It was too early for that. My anxiety level had vaulted itself to new heights, despite my doctor's reassurance that all was fine and it was likely a side effect of the progesterone. A week later, it got worse. I felt a dampness, made a hasty retreat to the bathroom (thank God it was recess at school and someone could keep an eye on my students) only to discover I was no longer spotting. This was full out bleeding. A gush of bright red blood. Shaking, I made my way to the office and informed the principal (she knew I was again pregnant...I told her just for this reason, in case something were to happen). My doctor had me come in right away. The nurse ushered me into the exam room and inquired "You had a miscarriage last time too, right?" My heart sank as I heard the words I dreaded, but was sure were true. I silently wiped the tears from my eyes and tried to keep my composure as I waited for my doctor. The examination showed my cervix was closed and the active bleeding had slowed. His attempts to comfort me were met with my declarations, through tears, that I was not optimistic, as this is what happened last time. He understood my fear and urged me not to give up hope, and he scheduled me for an ultrasound. the second ultrasound revealed that all was well, but still no heartbeat. I knew, at six weeks, this was not abnormal, but I was still frightened. I would simply need to wait for another ultrasound in two weeks or so, when a heartbeat would be visible in a viable pregnancy (or even, in the case of my previous pregnancy, a non-viable one). The next day, I was summoned to the office to take a phone call. It was my doctor, informing me that the radiologist had a concern about my ultrasound. The sac was implanted so high up in my uterus that they feared it was ectopic. I knew this wasn't good, but my doctor reassured me by telling me that he felt it wasn't the case, but because of the danger of ectopic pregnancies, I needed to go for an emergency ultrasound. Again, I left school. I was grateful for the student teacher I had taken on that semester. While he couldn't be left solely responsible for the classroom, he could assure that routine was disrupted as little as possible when the sub was there, and it was one less thing to worry me.

Again

I had to wait to tell my husband, but I couldn't keep this to myself for two whole days. (I'm awful with secrets). I called my mother. She's superstitious, so she was very cautiously thrilled. The first time we were pregnant, I though she was crazy. Now I got it. The two days until Mark came home were two of the longest I'd had, and somehow he kind of knew. (I guess my declaration on the phone that I had a BIG surprise for him got him thinking.) He was also cautiously thrilled. I had already come to the realization that a pregnancy after a miscarriage carries a heavier burden of worry. You are on edge until you pass the point in time that you miscarried previously, and even after that, you don't ever lose that nagging feeling that something is going wrong. A sort of waiting for the other shoe to drop for the entire time you're pregnant. Because I had been vigilantly taking my temperature, and because I appeared to have a relatively short luteal phase, I was technically just under four weeks pregnant when I found out. This would be a long 36 weeks, I imagined. I called my doctor's office the next business day and was terrified when the NP told me I could wait until I came in to get my prescription for progesterone suppositories. Didn't she get that I was a wreck? Didn't she get that every second without these suppositories could spell doom for my unborn child? I realized I would have to wait, and I hung up the phone and sobbed. I left the Clomid on my dresser, to be safe. My appointment to confirm the pregnancies was two days away and I was sure something would happen in those 48 hours. It didn't. I got my prescription, found myself a compounding pharmacy, and thus began the nightly ritual of inserting a cold glycerin suppository into my vagina. Ideally, this would continue until 12 or 13 weeks of pregnancy, at which time the placenta could be counted on to maintain things and the chilly white torpedoes could be abandoned. And the days ticked by...about twelve of them to be exact

One year

So here I was in mid-September. I had begun teaching my second year of first grade, and it was one year from the weekend I had discovered I was pregnant for the first time. My husband had planned a road trip to Pittsburgh with some of his buddies, which was fine. I'd spend some time with a friend, whose husband also happened to be part of this road trip. I'd read. I'd do school work. I'd relax. I'd wake up on Saturday morning to another high basal temperature. As per instructions from the automatic software I'd used to chart these temps, I'd take a pregnancy test. And when it was positive, I'd take another. And then, because I really didn't beleive it was true, I'd go buy one of the new digital ones that actually displays the words "pregnant" or "not pregnant" And when this, the third test I'd taken, read "pregnant" I would tremble. I would cry. And I'd regret that my husband wasn't home. I couldn't tell him over the phone. I'd wait two more days to tell him in person. And, of course, I'd begin worrying.

Summer

I didn't want to work that summer. Once school was out, I really wanted to go home, close the blinds, and wake up pregnant in September. I'd wake myself for my daily dose of Zoloft and my weekly therapy appointment, but other than that, I had big plans to check out of life. My husband, God bless him, discouraged me from this. He was worried, and he thought the distraction would be good. I knew he was right, so I got a job. It paid poorly, but it kept me out of my house and usually, out of my head. My fiend had her baby, a little boy. I couldn't bring myself to go to the hospital. A maternity ward would have sent me over the edge. I visited when they got home. I cried when I left. Summer ended. My vigilant temperature taking every morning and monitoring of my fertility signs proved futile. It was fall again. I was still not pregnant. My doctor and I decided that Clomid was in order. I would fill my prescription, and on day 5 of my next cycle, I'd begin taking the Clomid. I filled it, and placed the bottle right on top of my dresser where I stared at it hopefully and prayed for my period to begin.